Home / gay topics / Gay male hand jobs
This might be deemed as controversial by society, but as long as you’re willing to look into it, what we desire is no different from others. Your information will be used in line with our Privacy Policy
Totally by coincidence, two different guys called me for therapy this week with similar issues.
Should you cup the balls?
There are enough questions to scare off even the most sexually experienced of us.
Not to fret, we are here to help.
We asked nine men – gay, straight and bi – to tell us what makes a great hand job, and if there’s a special technique.
If blowjobs or sex are an option, do that instead.
When there’s no orgasm, the pleasure has its own value. Hard and fast? Because it made him feel powerful and in control—feelings he rarely had in the rest of his complicated life.
One day I mentioned that he could get in trouble if a cop caught him with his pants down in a car. Please contact for full pricing.
massage - outcall
massage for male or couple
singing bowl therapy
Spa
hair removal
facial treatment
Personal Training
Hand jobs are one of the more controversial activities in the bedroom, mostly because many people wonder if they’re a total waste of time.
Do men even like hand jobs given to them by others or would they rather just do it themselves?
And how do they want it?
You go from zero to sixty and back to zero in a fairly short time.
In general, you can probably grip and squeeze their penis more firmly than you think you can, and don’t forget to focus on the head, especially if you’re trying to make them come quickly.
Like Atticus Finch once said – sometimes you have to imagine life in someone else’s shoes.
*Some names have been changed because people are shy.
Do you have a story to share?
Get in touch by emailing MetroLifestyleTeam@Metro.co.uk.
MORE: Caribbean swingers resort reopens amidst pandemic – but you can’t touch others
MORE: Can you have an orgy with another household in lockdown?
MORE: What happens if you don’t have sex for a long time?
CommentsAdd as preferred sourceMetro's hottest newsletter, with juicy stories and tips for spicing things up in the bedroom.
This article originally appeared on VICE UK.
Andy is a muscular dystrophy patient who lives with his parents in southern Taiwan. When our group was reported by the media and got lots of criticism, I saw Andy joined the public debate and argued with those [critical] internet users, trying to illustrate his opinions.”
In Taiwan, where a discussion of sexuality is restrained by strict moral codes, there was also plenty of mockery leveled at Hand Angel.
He also felt it was infidelity, which he thought was morally wrong.
He said he kept going because it was “relaxing,” a way to be naked with a woman without complications. So not the best mix for those like Andy, really. Straight massage doesn’t really work for this, because it’s so different from being caressed or hugged. Inputs tactile stimulation from the front, back and side of the body orderly from shallow to deep, from skin surface to the joints, muscles, and fascia, allowing the body to relax deeply and rest more effectively.
I asked, “If you can’t imagine going a month without this, doesn’t that sound more compulsive than glamorous?” He had to admit that it did.
“But if it works for me, it shouldn’t matter,” he said cavalierly.
A bitter wife who promised a custody battle if they divorced, a 6-year-old son he barely knew because she controlled access to him (they’d been living separately for two years), a job at which he felt chronically behind, and two sickly parents he was committed to caring for all added up to an unhappy life.
He said it made him feel “free.” It certainly helped him forget the constraints of the rest of his life.
He liked the glamor of men in their 20s, so as a 45-year-old, small cash payments were the way to get what he wanted.
Related: “The Japanese Love Industry”
In the Netherlands, the national health system provides a grant scheme for people with disabilities to receive public money to pay for sexual services up to 12 times a year.
We need touch for benefits of Well-being, Body Awareness, Stress & Anxiety Level and Interpersonal Relationship.
Touch therapy, involving the stimulation of tactile input, can bring our body into deep relaxation.
Benefits include stress reduction, decreased anxiety and depression, improved sleep quality and reduced physical pain.
Just ask yourself: do you need to consult your parents before having sex?”
Touch has a significant impact on the nervous system. Listen to new Metro podcast Just Between Us
X Factor icon Diana Vickers and writer, broadcaster, and LGBTQ+ advocate Jack Guinness dive into your wildest sex, love, and dating dilemmas – every Tuesday.
Listen wherever you get your podcasts or watch on YouTube.
It’s made very clear to me that these volunteers only use their hands for second-base kind of stuff—that hugging, caressing, and kissing on the face are all fine, but anything penetrative (fingering, oral sex, vaginal sex, and anal sex) is not.
Gauge their reactions, they will act like a human speedometer for when you need to go faster or slower.
Good tip, just before ejaculation, slow down to long, hard strokes near the top, he will have a much longer orgasm.
Most guys won’t admit it as well, but ball play at the same time feels amazing.
Lube can be a big help if he’s getting sore, and paying close attention to the frenulum, the elastic band of tissue that connects the foreskin.
Hand jobs are basically shit and we can probably do it better ourselves, so this is essentially an exercise in damage limitation.
Because he felt it entitled him to pick and choose.